I don't want to teach Kieran to be ashamed of himself, but this running around naked, and disrobing in public has got to stop. He is tall for his age so some people think he is five years old. Here's an example from a couple weeks ago. He ran into the living room, naked after having gone to the toilet, when I was talking with my landlord. My landlord turned three shades of red then excused himself from the house, said that maybe we should talk another time. Kieran and I have had several sit-downs about modesty. Anyone else want to share their stories?
Sometimes I wish that I could be like that ... and not worry about what others think of me...its great that children are so free. I hate that they lose that by growing up. I think the world would be alot better if we all took a lesson from them...Never mind that was the 70's!!!!
My son still just loves running around in his underwear I can't wait to get a phone call from his teacher telling me that he tried to undress in class!
My boys are a little like this too. I think boys are definitely more prone to this than girls. But we have a very open atmosphere in the house, and they see us naked. They just have to learn what is OK and what is not, and that takes time when you are this age.
My 2 were worst for flashing their bottoms around, and we have had to go down a firm route with that one!
But in general little kids have no real inhibitions... perhaps if my body was in such good shape I´d want to run round naked too.!
My son doesn't like to wear clothes either...He likes to be naked. But we have insisted that he at least wear underwear. May be you should suggest this to your son too. My son puts on clothes to go out...But as soon as we get in the house he takes off everything except his underwear. I have had a couple of embarrasing things happen but if people are uncomfortable with him in his underwear just say...It could be worse he could be naked!! THat makes them shut up really quick!!
Okay, I'm looking for other moms who have a similar situation as mine! My husband has a very stressful job, and often brings his work home with him. He also "drops the F bomb" frequently at the office, a word that he brings home with him as well! Now, I'm not against swearing, as it is a way for adults to express their frustration and anger when appropriate. However, I have attempted to ban cussing when in ear-shot of our 3 year old. Because Kieran has been saying the F word when he plays with the puppy, when he talks to his stuffed animals, etc. and I am very concerned that when we have a play date, that Kieran is going to drop the F bomb and all the other moms will not want to associate with us anymore! I tell Brian about what I've heard come out of Kieran's mouth, and he simply is amused that a little person says F*** in proper context, like it's cute or something. I am mortified, and at a loss, because my repeat efforts to get Brian to watch his language around Kieran is falling to deaf ears.
We had issues with this too, and both my husband and I had a hard time not cussing. That's the real problem. We are much better about it, but she went through some spurts of saying bad words. What finally worked for us was to tell her not only that they are bad words, but to be sure to help US not say them and warn us when we use one. That really seemed to do the trick, and it's much more fair than to just say, "You can't say it but we can." Kids are very monkey see, monkey do anyway.
I can relate to this. It´s not a problem in my house as Dad works away a lot and have to say he is probably less of a swearer than me! But I have a niece whose dad is a policeman in Glasgow, Scotland, and boy does he cuss! Of course in the same way, Rhianne started saying these words at a very early age. Have to break the "it´s cute" idea though, I´m with you on that one and I´d be mortified if one of mine said something at school or in company!!
The only way is to watch what you say. Mine are aware of "naughty words" and will say " mum you shouldn´t say that" if I forget and curse when I am cross having just tripped over the cat and dropped their tea, for example.
I then have to smile and say " you´re right", when really I want to go outside and let off steam!
I've been a full time mom for almost 4 years, been homeschooling, and want him to eventually go to school full time. I've enrolled him in preschool for this fall, three days a week, from 9am to 1pm. Does anyone have any tips on starting preschool after a child has been with his mother practically 24-7 his whole life?
I know that feeling also. I have been with my son full time since he was born. I have him enrolled in kindergarten in September and I'm starting to feel the same way. With my daughter I wasn't with her the whole time and she ended up going to day care so the break was a lot easier. I'm worried about my son though. He has a hard time without me around and I hope he can adjust.
I think the main thing is that we don't let him know we are feeling this way. I also have him enrolled in a day where he gets to see what's going on when I'm around. Also the first day I'm going to walk him to school so then he knows where to go and then the second day he can go on the bus. I hope I have helped you ... if not at least I know how you are feeling.
My preschool son has been doing something different. He likes to run out in front of me when we are outside. Now I live in a big city and people aren't very observant, especially of little kids. The speed limit is 50 km but they are at least going 80 km. It scares me to think that he will run out not caring and get hit. So today we were coming back from the grocery store. I've had a long day so I wasn't walking as fast as I usually do. He ran in front of me and down the stairs that stop in front of the road. I screamed at him, and I didn't care who heard me. If he ran out he would be killed. He doesn't think I know what I am talking about and I hope he'll never find out that I'm right.
This is the same as what Kelby does with Gabrielle, she has her keep a hand on the side of the minivan. I have gotten Kieran into the habit of standing right in front of the back tire, next to his door, if for whatever reason I can't hold onto him or put him into the car immediately. It's what I tell him every time we get to the car, you know how little kids need to hear the same thing over and over... He hears, "Stand in front of the tire and look at me" And with my reminder he does it automatically, and he doesn't budge from that spot until I tell him to climb into his carseat. My goodness, he's a stepford child, isn't he?!! Anyway, jokes aside, whatever works for you. I'm just saying, be totally specific in what you want him to do while he is standing exactly where you want him to stand. And he'll get into the habit!
I enlist his help; since kids this age are eager to feel like big helpers, this works. You see, the shopping carts are too heavy for me to push by myself. Kieran likes to stand right in front of me as he helps to push the shopping cart, which keeps him in a really safe spot. And if I just have one thing, he'll hold onto the other loop of the shopping bag, or even help me carry my too-heavy purse by holding onto the strap! I've given him a choice, too. "Do you want to hold onto my purse, or the sack?" Of course the key is he doesn't get to hold anything all on his own, cuz he could take it and run off!!! If we don't have anything, I can convince him to hold onto my skirt or the bottom of my shirt, if he balks at me holding his hand. But, most of the time, he likes holding my hand if I make it fun, like we sing a song and skip along. I look foolish but oh well.
We usually have a discussion about the dangers of the parking lot in the check-out line, as we're paying, if he'd been hyper in the store (I don't have to worry about it if he'd been sleepy or clingy). We used to have a problem in the parking lot before but since i started calling on his assistance he's more conscientious to stay near me because i'm apparently so weak! lol
Today when we were crossing the road I just grabbed his wrist...and I said I know you may not like it but this is the way it's going to be. Because this is better than a killed baby....He hung on and didn't fight me...One battle won...hopefully more to come.
I keep on telling him to stop because the car won't always stop...He says then But mom it stopped...I keep trying to tell him maybe he won't be so lucky next time. Why didn't they invent women with like six arms...that would be a big help to me....
> My preschool son has been doing something different. He likes to run out in front of me when we are outside. Now I live in a big city and people aren't very observant, especially of little kids. The speed limit is 50 km but they are at least going 80 km. It scares me to think that he will run out not caring and get hit. So today we were coming back from the grocery store. I've had a long day so I wasn't walking as fast as I usually do. He ran in front of me and down the stairs that stop in front of the road. I screamed at him, and I didn't care who heard me. If he ran out he would be killed. He doesn't think I know what I am talking about and I hope he'll never find out that I'm right.
That always scares me, because my daughter is very bad about listening. She is getting better about it. I have baby twins, so I end up having to put at least one inside sometimes before she goes inside. I've started to TRY to train her to keep one hand on the minivan while I'm occupied. But if there are other temptations, like a puddle to splash in, she doesn't listen that well. She is finally starting to say things like, "A car is coming" and be alert about traffic. I am quite the nervous mom when it comes to cars and kids!!!
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