It's
OK, they are supposed to be that way. Infants and toddlers are unable
to realize that they are not the centers of the universe. Grasping a
concept that big is really too much for them. As they move into the
preschool age they begin to see that they are not really the end all of
everything, but what to do with this new information can still be too
much to process. As they mature gratitude for what they have, rather
than expecting that what they want will be immediately given, blossoms.
Still, if you are worried that your preschooler is becoming a "spoilt
brat' or you just want to help them move through the transition here
are a few ideas to use.
One great thing to do is to create a daily habit of being grateful. For
a young preschooler this does not have to be much. Take a few moments
each day to share some of the things you are grateful for and encourage
your preschooler to share hers as well. You can also take a few moments
after or before meals to say thanks for the food. These little things
can show your preschooler what being thankful means.
When
your preschooler has a case of the "gimmies" it can be easy to get
frustrated. You may feel that they are being ungrateful about the
things they already have, and sometimes they do act that way.
One way
to combat this is to talk to your preschooler about what they already
have verses what they want. Try not to make them feel guilty for
wanting what ever it is that they want, and always validate that their
want is very real. Help them see that while they may not have the
latest toy they see there are still many great things that they already
have.
Of course the best way to teach
gratitude to your preschooler is to show it yourself. Just like all of
the other habits that they mimic from their parents, being thankful is
something they will pick up from you.
Talk about being grateful often,
and tell your children that you are grateful for them. Do things to
show your gratitude for what you have in front of them and take the
time to explain why. Over time your preschooler will mature and begin
to understand gratitude in their own way.