Relationship is a ride, but does the ride get easier when you are a single parent and trying to have a serious relationship? How do you prepare yourself for dating again after everything you've been through? can you date or establish a relationship with your new friend and at the same time deceide if this person is worth my time and my child's time? How do your prepare yourself to introduce them to your child? These are things some single parents ask everyday regarding whether or not it is the right time to look for companionship or just let if find you.

This article gives an insight on dealing with relationship and dating when you have a child. There are often times you have to decide wheather your ready to introduce them to your child and at the sam time discuss with you child their feelings in this situation. Single parents are delicate and one thing they dont need is drama in a relationship.

Finding companionship is different but does it get easier if you’re a single parent. I have learned that intimacy and being a single mother are two projects that need some thought out plans.

When I was a single parent, it was a struggle and handling work and paying for childcare was expensive, especially a private daycare. There were days when I wished this job wasn’t a one-woman ride, how I wished someone was there to help me pick up the baby and start the day off. Those moments when I felt no one could understand the hardship I endure but I did it with the grace of God’s help and persevered.

Dating came along down the line, as a woman I like to communicate over the phone before we meet in public. Call me old fashion but I am a true believer that communication is the key to long healthy relationship. Phone dating is good if you want to find out what’s his/her favorite color, or do prefer Nike’s or Puma‘s, Sean John to Calvin Klein and etc. Knowing these things is a vital asset, you can identify what it is you both have in common or what you disagree on.

Phone conversation can help find whether your friend likes children. This is the icebreaker, most individuals will tell how they either feel about having children or discuss the relatives they know have children. Finding out this information will further inform you if this person will accept the child in your life or head elsewhere.

We have established that he/she is Sagittarius and likes Chinese food, not a smoker, wears Sean John and likes Nikes. I believe it’s time to plan a dinner date. The best place to meet someone is at a restaurant or even the mall, share a seat at the yogurt spot and talk. Bring up the information you found out about him/her over the phone.

Let him know your situation and that you are a single parent, that way they do understand if you can't make that dinner date or have to break prior arrangements that it is not intentional. In all things most importantly dating and relationships, the most important one is the one you have with you child. Understand that relationships will come and go but the relationship with your child is one that last a lifetime.

If you come to realize in your dating with this person that understanding your responsibilities is too much for them to handle, then kick him/her to the curb. Your child is numero uno in this matter and if they cant seem to comprehend it then wish them well on their journey “ See yah“. I have seen families split because of favoritism and choosing the man/woman over the child and it is not a pretty site, it leads to a whole barrel of therapy trust me. 

We have established what him/her does and doesn’t like over the phone and we spoke on children whether he/she wants them or literally likes them. We have found out if this person is a understanding individual of your needs and life. It’s time to find out whether the child will like them or not, it is time to meet. A good starter to introduce your child to your new boyfriend/girlfriend is at the park . Going to the park is a good way to find out if they can get along and play together.

I am firm believer that children can pick up vibes from people whether it’s positive or negative, allow your child to get a good sense of the person and when the date is over ask you child what did they think about him/her. It is not only you dating this person, but you and your child and whether it works out or not doesn’t matter as long as you have each other. Remember these things take a great deal of time, do not be in such a rush to get into to things be patient and will come to you.

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