The preschool age falls within the years when our children are most impressionable. They look to us for, among other things, routine and approval. And if we offer these two things to our sons and daughters, we're on the right track to giving them a healthy view of themselves.

When it comes to kids, routine is something professionals have condoned for years. By creating a structured, reliable routine for our wee ones - like ensuring certain activities and events, from meals to nap and bathtimes, fall within the same period each day - they come to learn what we expect of them and what to expect of themselves. Kids are able to transition through their day feeling accomplished, which builds the basis for their self-confidence.

Also important for our children are approval and praise, which go hand in hand. Not only are they simple ways to show our kids love and encouragement, they inhibit healthy levels of pride and acceptance within ourselves. And since kids both crave and thrive on praise and approval, the two can only serve to boost their self-esteem and reinforce that they're capable of great things. Special hugs and words of comfort or inspiration can bolster kids' thought processes, including how they feel about themselves.

So if you don't already have a pattern in place, think about how you can best implement one. Find structure for your days and nights. Your kids will quickly fall into routine and come to understand what to expect, and begin to grasp what it means to follow through. Fill many moments with "Great job" and "I'm so proud of you." Give frequent pats, loving rubs, and warm hugs. Then sit back and watch as your kids thrive and grow. Their self-confidence will do the same.   

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