You're late, the possibility of being pregnant is very high so you decide to go to the store to purchase a pregnancy test or two. In a matter of minutes your life changes at the fact that the test shows that you are indeed pregnant. You take a few more tests to be sure and to make it feel much more real. You confirm the pregnancy at a doctor visit and now you begin telling your family and friends so that they can join in on this joyous occasion. You are flying high on cloud nine and start making plans for this little life not yet seen. The last thing on your mind may be that something is terribly wrong with your baby.
The day finally arrives for an ultrasound. You get to see your baby and find out if they will be a boy or a girl. The excitement in the room is more than you can handle as you hold tightly your spouse's hand.
In a matter of minutes you start seeing a look of concern on the ultrasound technician's face and you begin to wonder what could be wrong. All of a sudden a bomb is dropped on you saying that they see some major concerns with your little one and it is very life threatening. Do you terminate or do you go on with the pregnancy no matter what?
It is very easy in an instant to want the pregnancy to end since you can't possibly see your little one suffer or have a lifetime of disabilities. But reality is you want this baby and you are willing to see the little one through no matter what. You are past the miscarriage point so this little life is very recognizable as a baby. Taking a baby's life at this point seems harsh.
The news has shocked and devasted you and your family at the same time. You go home wondering what the end result could be. The best thing to do is go on believing in a miracle to bring you hope through a pregnancy. It's not good for pregnant women to get stressed. With news like this how could you not?
Begin talking and praying for this little life growing within you. Talking positively versus negatively will help you cope and prepare for what could possibly be a very devastating experience. Some days you may feel as if you can't go on, you may feel like you couldn't possibly have anymore good days since you are carrying a baby that may not make it.
You face other pregnant moms and know there is a pretty good chance that there is nothing wrong with their baby. This hurts and you feel singled out. The fact is you are not alone, there are many moms out there that are pregant with a baby that may die at birth or have a lifetime of disabilities or major health problems. You can make it through and in the end there are endless support systems to help you get through these trials of life. You are not alone!
~In loving memory of Brandon Michael Clair 8/03/05-8/03/05~
