We hear it all the time, women complaining because their significant other just doesn’t ever seem to listen to them. They forget to pick up the dry cleaning they promised to pick up, or we get a "yes dear" while they continue to stare at the television, instead of an actual answer to what we had been trying to discuss. Sure we all know that men process things differently than we do, it’s in the wiring, but they can’t be that different,can they? And regardless of those differences there has got to be a way to communicate effectively without screaming or feeling as though we are talking to children in grown up bodies.
1. Avoid
the screaming, well obviously, but a lot of us get into the habit because it
does some times get results, not long term ones but heck after awhile it’s
really more about the here and now anyway right? No one ever really wins an argument; unless
there is a solution reached all you’ve managed to do is strain your vocal
cords.
2. Avoid
at all costs the blame game, before bringing up a problem or complaining about
his flaws make sure you’ve thought of ways you could BOTH work at fixing the
problem.
3. Stay
positive and future focused. DO NOT
bring up the past hundred times you’ve had this conversation or the last dozen
promises he broke. Don’t criticize. Instead point out all the ways you have both
grown and how good most things are and that you are willing to work on certain other
areas with his help.
4. Say
what you really mean, and listen closely, innuendos are NOT a good way to get
your point across, remember men are wired differently, and just because we know
that saying “Hun, can you take out the trash?” really means I’m busy and you’re
not do this for me NOW, men don’t hear it that way.
5. Learn
to walk away, if the conversation gets to be to much it’s ok to walk off, cool
down and come back to it, and it might just save you both a lot of
screaming.
6. Agree
to disagree, just not forever, it’s ok to end a conversation on a positive note
and just agree to keep working on things and talking about things even if you
are both still coming at it from different angles, just make sure that you do
continue to talk about it and don’t bottle it up. People explode too.
7. Do
not talk down to your significant other, no matter how much like a child they
may act, they are adults and treating them as such and expecting them to behave
as such will get you much better results
than treating them like they are two.
And when all else fails understand and realize it and get
the help you need in order to communicate more effectively.
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