Do you ever feel he's not getting it or maybe she's not listening hard enough to what your trying to say? Perhaps we need to find out were are going in our marriage and why do we disagree on certain things. Can we have a decent conversation without the name calling and frustration? Most times we all go through the he's from Mars and she's from Venus dilemma in marriage how can we all benefit from our mistakes unless we learn to compromise, share and engage in a civilize conversation.
Marriage is love and the opportunity to spend it in joy not bickering. Of course we all have our disagreements but what happens when the topic takes a turn for the worse and a one day bad argument turns into a week. How do we find the words or expressions to humble ourselves and remember we in this thing together.
I believe marriage is not a walk in the park but a mountain that your climb together in love. The objective of marriage is two people who love each other desire the need to grow in love by creating an eternal commitment to one another. I have learned that even though we have our differences in opinions and ideas at the end of the day there is no one you would rather be with than him/her. Marriage is a compromise, meaning if he wants to watch the sports channel sit with him until the game is over then share the blanket and watch your favorite lifetime movie together.
There will be times when you feel he is from Mars and your on Venus and somehow you're not catching up to speed with things. There are a couple of things you should never do in a marriage.
#1. Never bring In-laws into the argument or conversation as this can become an all out war between hubby and wife.
#2. Who cares who was wrong or right? The pettiest things from smelly socks can fire up an argument and by the end of the argument your both wondering what were you bickering about from the beginning.
# 3. Never go to bed upset. Life is too short and time is so important. No matter who said it first make up and apologize spend the rest of the night holding each other.
#4. If all fails just do the old fashion thing talk it out in a calm tone. Be expressive, focus on your main points and lay the cards on the table.
#5. If the conversation is not going anywhere, try some exercises such as writing a letter on your feelings and thoughts and if there is still a bridge that needs to be crossed, contact your pastor or seek out a good therapist for marriage counseling. A good idea is requesting to attend couple’s retreat, learning new ways to communicate and rebuild that foundation of understanding.
Marriage is the foundation of your family and at times you both will feel as if your not on the same chapter. When that happens remember why your fell in love with him/her . Understand you will have different opinions about things but that only means you care so much that both parties feel very strong about the action. I heard a quote that marriage requires falling in love many times with the same person and to me that means no matter how angry she made you that day or even if he forgot something important to you. Come back to each laugh about the situation and make agreement that you can work this out together.
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