I don't know if it is just me or is every woman's husband lazy, and unappreciative? Yeah, I am a SAHM. A SAHM I am...lol. But that doesn't mean I'm supposed to be with the kids 24/7?
Now why can't my husband understand this. Just the other day I asked him to hold the baby while I was cooking. As he held the baby, I asked if he could hand me a bowl. Do you know what he said to me?! "I'm holding the baby" he said.
At that very moment I wanted to pop him right on his forehead like in those V8 commercials. He has it so easy. In the morning he takes his daughter to school. Which is only a hop, skip and a jump away.
He's spending the time before going to work on the computer or playing damn video games! I'm the one taking care of the baby all day! By the time he comes home from work, the kids are asleep. I'm the one doing all the work with a baby in my arms! So at that moment, while cooking dinner for everyone, I stopped everything! Turned off the stove and tossed the cooking utensil in the sink, and said "I'M DONE".
I walked my frustrated and tired self up stairs to my bedroom and took a nap with the door locked and everything. (YES, IDID). And you know what; An hour later I heard a knock at the door. Fully rested, I opened the door.
To my suprised there my husband was with the baby in one arm, and a plate of dinner in the other arm! The baby survived, and supper came out fine. He told me he realizes that I am the glue that holds the family together. The he apologized for being such a jerk. Also he says he is gonna start helping out more. I'm happy about that, but let's see how long it will last.
Here's what I say to your situation, as I think it's common among lots of new parents:
Pardon my frankness, but we have to remember that men supplied the sperm and we do the rest regarding the development, carrying and delivery of baby. BECAUSE we are divinely selected to hold such a position, we are given a "booster shot" ,if you will, filled with tasks that automatically take over. We are multitaskers and everything about us changes once we are pregnant and after having our child. In the meantime, the only thing that changed in a man is that we have an extra life in our home. Their bodies didn't change to fit a baby in their belly...their hormones didn't change, and I don't think they got that "booster shot".
To them, these simple tasks are one too many that they never did or understood, unless they are an older brother who watched his siblings or was given a situation where he's learned how to manage the way new moms automatically understand to do. Hang in there. I have told my husband "I understand why such -and- such hasn't happened...it's just because you wouldn't know." My daughter is 19 months old. I left him with her last night so I could meet a few girlfriends to celebrate my b-day over dinner. I asked one thing "Can you give her the bottle of milk I left in the fridge as soon as I walk out the door, please?" He said "Yep! Got it handled" I came home at 11:30pm to a sleeping baby, a sleeping husband and a full bottle of milk in the fridge...you know...the one he was supposed to give? So I understand how you feel...but I take a deep breath and say to myself "well, he just doesn't know"
Once you can accept that, things could go by much easier. It at least confirms why G-d picked women to hold this role of MOM. Turn the word upside down...and it spells out what every man should say ---- "WOW".
...to your first question is YES! My hubby will sit in the living room and continue to increase the volume on the news while I yell at our three-year-old not to touch the stove as I am cooking dinner, making the hubby's lunch and coffee for the next day, paying bills, etc.
The fact that he can't seem to think to himself hey, my wife worked all day too and is doing seven things right now so maybe I should ENGAGE and help out? Yeah, I don't call that genetics or the differences between men and women. I call it BEING LAZY AND UNAPPRECIATIVE!
However I must give him credit because once I stopped screaming "TURN OFF THE TV AND HELP ME!!!" and started talking rationally to him about why it just makes sense for him to entertain our son while I am cooking dinner, he actually listened. Imagine...
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