It is time to play that song that made you think of the first time you knew you loved him. After having a family we tend to overlook what happens to our marriage. Sometimes we are just busy with our children and our business. We go on about things as usual but we can at times neglect our relationships with our spouses.

This is the moment, it is the time to kick back and light that fire and bring in the love. Marriage is a beautiful thing especially when we are doing it together and taking time to show one another how much we really care.

How can you keep the fire burning after having your children? Do you still sing those lovely dove songs and send your spouse love letters or continue to have those long conversations on the phone as your whisper I love you?

After having children we take a detour along the long road of relationship. We concentrate on our family’s goals and dreams we have in order to grow and prosper for a better future. Sometimes we lose sight ourselves and have to find our way back to our relationship.

Keeping the fire burning means flowers and love letters and all the things you did before you had your children. Hire a babysitter to watch the kids for your date and whisk off into the night followed by candlelight dinner and dancing.

I personally have had those days where we didn’t have a sitter or the kids had a cold. Those nights we put the kids to bed listen to some slow jams and dance in the living room. Sometimes we can dance when there is no music playing at all, that is love. A foot massage or even a back rub is a humble way of showing your appreciation for the mate you have in your life and wonderful years you have shared together building a family, building a friendship.

A little humor for the mood karaoke, no body could sing a better Tom Jones than him. Be playful, run around the house or even take a little bubble bath when you and hubby are all alone and turn off the lights. If your not feeling that mood, better than anything in the world a good movie.

Get to your nearest video store and pick a good romance film and cuddle under your favorite blanket with your popcorn and goobers and make it a Blockbuster night. Ladies along with the romance movie get a good horror or action flick that way your cuddle can last until you pass out in each others arms smothered in chocolate & popcorn.

A good book is a great way to connect and debate and share your feelings while taking turns reading. Keeping the fire burning means to me enjoying the time you share with the person you walked down the aisle with. That person is the same person who asked you out on that first date, shared that first kiss and held your hand when you welcomed your child into your life.

Life is an adventure: embrace it with those you love. Continue to keep the flames burning and never lose sight of your love for one another. Of course we get side tracked with things but always make sure that your marriage is taken care of just like any other necessity or duty in your household. Love is key to a great relationship!

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