First let me stress that for starters this is undiagnosed
and will stay that way.This is nothing
more than an assumption that his teachers, the school officials and those close
to us have, myself included.The lack of
desire to have this confirmed is not a matter of denial but a personal choice
on my part as a parent to deal with it without the help of drugs or
therapy.There is nothing he needs at
this point that I can’t in some way shape or form provide.
Yes my son is hyper, most conventional methods of
communicating with him fail it’s really in one ear and out the other as they
say.Yes he’s disruptive, but so are
most children, he is in no way malicious in his actions, he just finds tapping
his pencil while the teacher speaks to be a necessary thing to do.This isn’t something that is his FAULT nor is
it something I feel can be changed without forever altering who he is as a
person.
My son most certainly marches to the beat of his own
personal drummer.Unfortunately it is a
drummer none of us can hear unless we take the time to listen.Because this little boy might be hyper and he
might be different than the other children but he is also the most considerate,
polite and loving little boy you could ever meet.
There are times when I think the rest of my
children and I as well could learn a thing or two from his lack of
inhibitions.Nothing embarrasses him,
he’ll go to his brother’s baseball practice and run the bases after they are
finished all by him self just to feel included and LOVE every step.
He’ll sing at church, even if he doesn’t know
the words, and though he can’t carry a tune or keep a beat, and he never
notices.He’s the child that will dance
in the rain when he should be walking home and get mad if I try to make him
come in, because after all “mom, it’s just water, I’m going to take a bath
later anyway.”
And that right there is the defining factor in my choice to
embrace his differences, he’s 7 and right now he has no idea that he is
different.He enjoys every second of his
life.Maybe someday that will change and
we’ll have to deal with things differently but right now I prefer to let him
march on to whatever beat suits him.
I think you are a wonderful mother. I am a mom of 2 autistic children and I watch them try very hard to over come so many things but at the end of the day I let them beat to their own drum and I thank God that I have them in my life because they have taught me patience. You a great mother ! you rock
Hi, Keri
I can understand your not wanting to drug your child. Have you tried changing his diet? Some kids who present as ADHD are actually allergic to milk, wheat, artificial ingredients in foods such as dyes, flavorings or preservatives, or yeast. Try eliminating processed foods, sodas, sweeteners, especially splenda and aspartame.
You can check out the Feingold diet online for specific brands of foods that are acceptable. As a rule, if you can't pronounce it, it shouldn't be in your child.
This is a lot of work at the start, especially if you have to deny a child a favorite food. Often times the child craves the foods that are causing the behavior. You can easily find substitutes at whole foods stores and health food stores. Making food from fresh ingredients allows you to control what your child is eating.
This diet approach has made a major difference in my daughter's life. She is calmer, happier and sleeps better.
Best regards,
bookworm
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