Around the ages of 6 to 8 years old
your child will begin to want privacy. You will need to learn how to respect
their boundaries but still keep them safe. This is how you can give children privacy but still keep some degree of parenting controls.
You have given your child a bath since the beginning but now she
doesn't want you to see her. Modesty is kicking in, mostly because they
are becoming more aware of their (and other's) bodies. They now can
begin to notice the difference between girls and boys.
They are also trying to prove that they can take care of themselves.
These sudden changes can present difficulties in adjusting to the
boundaries they are enforcing. You may feel like you aren't a part of
their lives anymore or taht you are unwanted. Here is how you can feel
better and not take it so personal.
1) Don't give them total privacy-right now. Explain that
there are some places you still need to go with them to protect them.
Places like the public washroom, you can stand outside the stall
instead of going in with them. Also tell them there may be times when a
doctor will need to look at their bodies too.
2)Expect them to be inconsistent in the beginning. One night
they may lock the bathroom door and the next they may want you to stay
close while they are having a bath. Sticking with what they want helps
a lot.
3)Teach them how to change in public. It's always good to
teach them how to handle changing in public places like a locker room
or public pool. Showing them how to do this can ease tension and
anxiety.
4)Watch for extreme behavior. If your child suddenly is
embarrased about their body, you will need to try to find out why. If
you suspect it's abuse, ask them about it. Ask if they have been
touched in a way they didn't feel comfortable with or if something was
said that made them uncomfortable. But don't start jumping to
conclusions. There could be a real simple answer, if it persists though
talk to your family doctor.
5)Take advantage of the moment. This newfound privacy thing
can be turned into teaching moments. You can talk to your child about
hygiene and clothing choices. You can stress that people are all
differnt sizes and shapes and you should be proud of your body.
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