We all know that bullying goes on in public schools and we know that
most of the time the teacher’s ignore that it is going on and
principals usually do nothing about it.
I have heard teachers say that being bullied builds character and children need to learn how to deal with bullies. I have also heard that the child being bullied brings it on themselves.
In some cases even the teachers become part of the bullying, by calling the child names like dork or laughing along with children while the one child is being bullied. I believe that some children even learn their verbal bullying skills from some of their teachers.
The sad truth is, is that bullying leads not only to depressed angry children but suicidal children. I have seen a child bullied so much, that he was rocking back and forth, not wanting to talk to anyone. He finally opened up to my husband and began telling him about a group of boy bullies at school who had been bullying him. We decided that we needed to get involved.
This boy went to the same school as our children and was only one grade older than our daughter. We first decided to take him home and talk to his mother. I also immediately called a friend who was a counselor and got some information from him on how to help this boy.
The boy’s mother said that she had complained to the school numerous times and they had done nothing. This child had come home with some serious bruises from having his arm pinned between two desks, and that was just the most recent event. When ask how long it had been going on, the reply was for the last two years.
This boy was at his breaking point. Something had to be done. I finally asked if she had talked to these boys’ parents. Her reply to me was, "No, these parents don’t care what their kids do!" "Well," I said, "Give me the bullies names and I will at least try and talk to their parent."
My husband and I went to talk to each parent of the children involved. Not one had ever in the two years that their boys had been bullying this child had ever received a phone call or a note from the school. The parents had no idea that it had been going on and were ashamed that their children where a part of it.
The one boy’s older brother told his parents that he had told his little brother to quite teasing this child because one day he may just bring a gun to school. We informed each parent that if it didn’t stop that we would get charges pressed against the boy’s. (We didn’t say what kind of charges, because I really don’t know if there’s anything that the boys could be charged with.) After our visit with the parents, things did get better at school for the little boy, but the boy needed to see a counselor.
My suggestion for bullies is to take it directly to the parents of the bullies and have the meeting face to face, not over the phone. Then go into the principal’s office face to face. Tell him that if it does not stop that you will sue the school for not keeping the school facility safe for your child. You may also want to know, that you can be at your childs school at any time in any room with them.
If they say you can’t, then go into your principal’s office and check in and tell them that you are going to classes with your child because you feel like he is not safe on school property. Then when they say you cannot do it, tell them to do what they need to do because you as a parent, need to do what you need to do to keep you child safe. Then walk to your childs classroom. If they call the police or school security guards and have you escorted off the premises, then make sure that the six o’clock news gets called and go back the next day and do it again.
Also, cameras can be put up in hallways and classrooms. I say if a school does not want them, then a school has something to hide.
Ok...I needed to read this tonight. My son has been bullied for a few years in school by a group of girls. Of course he can't defend himself in anyway or he will be looked upon as a "WOMAN BEATER". It never escalated to anything major until tonight. It was a "5th grade School Social"( I call it a dancethere was a DJ and food)I walked in about 20 minutes before it was to end. I'm looking around for my son, much to my dismay i see an over weight boy pulling him across the floor. At that point my son got up and tried to walk away and the other boy pushed in into the wall. My son saw that I was there and gave me a look like "Don't say anything Mom". OK..I see him goo over to the bleachers to sit down and compose himself, well this girl comes from out of nowhere and gives a couple kicks to the shin. I yelled and she took off. My son comes over to me with tears welling up in his eyes and said I'm OK. At that point I said lets go wheres your hat? he answers Derrick took it again. I get ahold of this kid and tell him to "Knock it off!!!!" My son and I are walking out and he starts telling about 1 girl tripping him and about 5 others(ALL GIRLS) kicking him while he's on the ground...telling him he deserves it. WHAT?!?! I'm thinking to myself. I can see the emotional breakdown coming and I rush him out so these kids don't see that they got the best of him. My son is a good natured boy. Always told him to use your words not your fist. Never has he swung back or even a mean verbal come back(He did not get that from me, I was the small kid who would swing back. So I come home and he is in so much pain physically and emotionally,I decieded to call the principal. What a joke that was!!! I told her the story her response was well, they were playing around and I had gomne to a few groups of kids and told them not to do that. I asked my son he said Mom nobody said anything to these girls because, they didn't see the girls doing it. The people she talked to were pulling kids across the floor. So in my opinion she doesn't approve of the kids pulling one another across the floor but it's ok to kick the kid thats on the floor!?!?! I ended up taking my son to the local ER because he was in so much pain and to have this documented. My son has no broken bones but some serious deep tissue bruising on his wrist , missing skin on his elbows from the over weight kid that dragged him across the floor and some serious bruising on his shins, back and ankle from the horde of girls that were kicking him whle he was on the floor. So the principal let me know that this is the same group of girls they been having problems with and that they will be spending recess with her on Monday. ARE YOU KIDDING ME!!!!?????Now if my boy had haulled back and hit one of these girls he would be out and probally the police would have been called in and god knows what else. What kills me is when I walked in, there was not a chaparone in sight in the gym were all this chaos was going on...OH excuse me there was a 1 DJ...for about 200 kids!!! I'm angry,I'm sad and just plain ready to blow. My son can't bring himself to hit someone because he doesn't want to hurt anybody...HOW SAD IS THAT? Even after getting kicked ,pushed around and treating like garbage he still feels like this. Is he hurting yes...I think some consuling is in order but I want to know what I can do to get this school off it's A$$ and punish these kids? Because I'm telling you right now I'm about to march in there with a lawyer and sue to have them pay to send my kid elsewhere. I just don't feel like my kid is being protected by the people that are suppose to be his guardien for 7 hrs a day. This is not the first time this has happened. Do I have to go there everyday to make sure this doesn't happen again...WHY? I know this sounds horrible but I'm gonna say it. I pay taxes and damn good ones at that, for these people to teach and watchover my boy....someones not doing a good job of it. Sorry for the rambling but I had to get it out. I very ANGRY!!!
Derrick took it again. I get ahold of this kid and tell him to "Knock it off!!!!" My son and I are walking out and he starts telling about 1 girl tripping him and about 5 others(ALL GIRLS) kicking him while he's on the ground...telling him he deserves it. WHAT?!?! I'm thinking to myself. I can see the emotional breakdown coming and I rush him out so these kids don't see that they got the best of him. My son is a good natured boy. Always told him to use your words not your fist. Never has he swung back or even a mean verbal come back(He did not get that from me, I was the small kid who would swing back. So I come home and he is in so much pain physically and emotionally,I decieded to call the principal. What a joke that was!!! I told her the story her response was well, they were playing around and I had gomne to a few groups of kids and told them not to do that. I asked my son he said Mom nobody said anything to these girls because, they didn't see the girls doing it. The people she talked to were pulling kids across the floor. So in my opinion she doesn't approve of the kids pulling one another across the floor but it's ok to kick the kid thats on the floor!?!?! I ended up taking my son to the local ER because he was in so much pain and to have this documented. My son has no broken bones but some serious deep tissue bruising on his wrist , missing skin on his elbows from the over weight kid that dragged him across the floor and some serious bruising on his shins, back and ankle from the horde of girls that were kicking him whle he was on the floor. So the principal let me know that this is the same group of girls they been having problems with and that they will be spending recess with her on Monday. ARE YOU KIDDING ME!!!!?????Now if my boy had haulled back and hit one of these girls he would be out and probally the police would have been called in and god knows what else. What kills me is when I walked in, there was not a chaparone in sight in the gym were all this chaos was going on...OH excuse me there was a 1 DJ...for about 200 kids!!! I'm angry,I'm sad and just plain ready to blow. My son can't bring himself to hit someone because he doesn't want to hurt anybody...HOW SAD IS THAT? Even after getting kicked ,pushed around and treating like garbage he still feels like this. Is he hurting yes...I think some consuling is in order but I want to know what I can do to get this school off it's A$$ and punish these kids? Because I'm telling you right now I'm about to march in there with a lawyer and sue to have them pay to send my kid elsewhere. I just don't feel like my kid is being protected by the people that are suppose to be his guardien for 7 hrs a day. This is not the first time this has happened. Do I have to go there everyday to make sure this doesn't happen again...WHY? I know this sounds horrible but I'm gonna say it. I pay taxes and damn good ones at that, for these people to teach and watchover my boy....someones not doing a good job of it. Sorry for the rambling but I had to get it out. I very ANGRY!!!
The people she talked to were pulling kids across the floor. So in my opinion she doesn't approve of the kids pulling one another across the floor but it's ok to kick the kid thats on the floor!?!?! I ended up taking my son to the local ER because he was in so much pain and to have this documented. My son has no broken bones but some serious deep tissue bruising on his wrist , missing skin on his elbows from the over weight kid that dragged him across the floor and some serious bruising on his shins, back and ankle from the horde of girls that were kicking him whle he was on the floor. So the principal let me know that this is the same group of girls they been having problems with and that they will be spending recess with her on Monday. ARE YOU KIDDING ME!!!!?????Now if my boy had haulled back and hit one of these girls he would be out and probally the police would have been called in and god knows what else. What kills me is when I walked in, there was not a chaparone in sight in the gym were all this chaos was going on...OH excuse me there was a 1 DJ...for about 200 kids!!! I'm angry,I'm sad and just plain ready to blow. My son can't bring himself to hit someone because he doesn't want to hurt anybody...HOW SAD IS THAT? Even after getting kicked ,pushed around and treating like garbage he still feels like this. Is he hurting yes...I think some consuling is in order but I want to know what I can do to get this school off it's A$$ and punish these kids? Because I'm telling you right now I'm about to march in there with a lawyer and sue to have them pay to send my kid elsewhere. I just don't feel like my kid is being protected by the people that are suppose to be his guardien for 7 hrs a day. This is not the first time this has happened. Do I have to go there everyday to make sure this doesn't happen again...WHY? I know this sounds horrible but I'm gonna say it. I pay taxes and damn good ones at that, for these people to teach and watchover my boy....someones not doing a good job of it. Sorry for the rambling but I had to get it out. I very ANGRY!!!
the gym were all this chaos was going on...OH excuse me there was a 1 DJ...for about 200 kids!!! I'm angry,I'm sad and just plain ready to blow. My son can't bring himself to hit someone because he doesn't want to hurt anybody...HOW SAD IS THAT? Even after getting kicked ,pushed around and treating like garbage he still feels like this. Is he hurting yes...I think some consuling is in order but I want to know what I can do to get this school off it's A$$ and punish these kids? Because I'm telling you right now I'm about to march in there with a lawyer and sue to have them pay to send my kid elsewhere. I just don't feel like my kid is being protected by the people that are suppose to be his guardien for 7 hrs a day. This is not the first time this has happened. Do I have to go there everyday to make sure this doesn't happen again...WHY? I know this sounds horrible but I'm gonna say it. I pay taxes and damn good ones at that, for these people to teach and watchover my boy....someones not doing a good job of it. Sorry for the rambling but I had to get it out. I very ANGRY!!!
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We all know that bullying goes on in public schools and we know that
most of the time the teacher’s ignore that it is going on and
principals usually do nothing about it.
